I was thinking about relationships in all their forms and I was thinking about how we seem to hold romantic relationships to higher often unrealistic expectations.
Our partner should be our best friend- simple enough statement- now – your best friend (unromanticly speaking) you accept them for for exactly who they are – if they are shit at getting back
To you and replying (FYI all mine, though I love them dearly are horrendous at replying- I’m sure there is a lesson in there for me somewhere) BUT I know they love me, I know they are here for me, I know when it comes down to it, if I need them, no question about it they are here for me, they show up, they step up and that – that’s what matters- we know that and we accept that – we still show them the same love and support and yet with romantic relationships society seems to create weird paradoxes and issues where there should be none, it teaches us if they don’t reply within X amount of time they probably don’t care or you’re not a priority or that if someone doesn’t behave as you do they are in some way wrong (everyone is their own person with their own triggers, reactions, qualities and habits! The people that love you accept all of
Your traits, flaws and everything in between, don’t be so critical) and then that you should withhold affection, go quiet, play games- no no no and no ladies and gents!! Being mature and in a real authentic relationship means baring all, being vulnerable, being who you are no games!
Everyone has an opinion or a way to deal with things and Yes sometimes you should seek council or guidance but mostly you should listen to yourself, your instincts and your feelings, you should be exactly who you are because the right person will fall in love with that person.
Yes you should set boundaries and be clear on who you are, what you want and if you have expectations, discuss them with eachother, learn where you can both compromise and what’s important to the other!
Clear, open and honest communication that’s how you can grow and get through life together- that stands for all relationships in your life – personal, romantic, friendships, family, work- all require healthy boundaries and all require effort on both parts!
Life is not always going to be good and it’s not always going to be bad, be clear on that, understand you will both have bad days, that doesn’t make the relationship bad, that doesn’t make the other person incompatible, it’s called life and unconditional love for yourself for your partner, knowing you’ll frustrate eachother, annoy eachother but knowing ultimately the love and support and all the good stuff, that’s what makes everything worth it, that’s what helps you through those days!

Stop expecting things from romantic relationships that you wouldn’t be upset with your best friend for (or start expecting things you’d expect from your best friend if youre putting your standards down for a guy/girl)and remember to talk through when things bug you or upset you but most of all- listen!! Listen to yourself, your soul and listen to your partner/friend/ parent.

Be you.
You are loved and you are loveable!

The right person will love the light and the dark in you that we all possess

Love always xo